…sometimes you just want someone to realize that they are sharing too much info and they refuse to accept that so you got to politely say too much personal info about you being told to me …please let us not do this…sharing is not always caring and at times it can be mean or hurtful or distressing so what ever happened to the concept of privacy… Not everyone needs to know Everything about another and stop expecting others to want this…
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Frankly…may be they do not approve of your personal life or feel privacy is necessary in certain areas of life and therefore they prefer to be able to maintain a neutral attitude or be blissfully ignorant…seriously an adult child may believe in abortion and premarital sex but maybe your parent does not want your life choices and actions in these areas explained to them in details and they now know you have done both … have one daughter I would not talk politics with or even not discuss her community service..she advocates more diversity on the police force by lowering educational requirements and. I disagree..
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
She participated in a pup and kiddies pride parade with dogs and very young children decorating themselves and their red wagons and puppies in gay colors..I really do not think first and second graders need an education on anyone sexuality or their stance on being gay or straight… wiser to keep my mouth shut since she is the one who gets offended if someone does not agree with her liberalism …A parent does get tired of one way conversations based on you keep your mouth shut as I do my show and tell… or your child insists she loves the guy who beats her and puts her in a hospital… you know eventually seeing her beaten and bruised you will render advice she does not want.. she goes ballistic if you say leave but if he puts her 6 feet under or cripples her you live with the guilt of not trying to get her leave …kinda a hell for a parent..you get a show and tell from a child who refuses to do anything about a very bad situation and some children make it a lifetime mission to bounce from one horrendous situation to another and demand silence from the peanut gallery ... .to keep ones sanity one may need a break and tell your kid to keep your personal life to your self…your not being mean it called self preservation and just because a child refuses to do this does not mean a parent should not..
